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Spicing it up: we women want to take charge in the bedroom too-Pegging

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By Oratile Rose Majola

Have you ever wondered maybe, just maybe the high divorce rates that have shrouded our country might be caused by “boring sex” Maybe the other partner is no longer amused by the traditional gender scripts in which the woman is generally assumed to be the receiving partner, while the man is the inserting partner.

Sometimes introducing new things in the bedroom can save a relationship. If you do not know where to start, worry less as this author here is about to bring you new ideas to experiment in your bedroom with your partner and we will start with pegging.

So what is pegging?

According to Bacharach (2019) of Women Health Magazine pegging is sexual practice in which a woman performs anal sex on a man by penetrating his anus with a strap-on dildo.
Yikes right? But hold on, let us not be too hasty…

Quite a number of us are quick to judge pegging or anal sex. Some men fear their sexuality will be questioned let alone being accused of being gay. But anal penetration does not mean one is gay, it does not mean one like men. Pegging is just a sexual act practiced by a man who is still turned on by a woman but willing to spice it up in the bedroom.

Besides pegging being a total power play, for men it can also be about the prostate. When inserted into his anus, the dildo has the power to reach and massage this walnut-sized gland that sits between the base of a guy’s penis and rectum. “The prostate is a super-charged erogenous zone, a.k.a. “the male G-spot,” (Bacharach, 2019). As with anal play in general, pegging can also stimulate the many erotic nerve endings in the anus and rectum and the results can be wow!

Giving out his first pegging experience ( obtained from Cosmopolitan Online) one male says “I tried it because I came across it in porn videos of pegging and it turned me on. It was with an ex girlfriend and I suppose she initiated the discussion but we both wanted to. It was sore at first. ‘Very sore’. To the point I was like “take it out”… But then I relaxed and it felt more natural, and eventually a big turn on when the strap on hit certain spots. Mentally at the time it was good. It just felt a natural thing time be sort of dominated by her. I suppose afterwards you ask yourself questions. I think the biggest appeal is a sense of role-reversal.”

But how do yo do pegging, what are the precautions? Below are a couple of tips on how to tackle pegging and what you need to do to make it the best experience you possibly can;

First Talk it out: Before any good decision is a discussion. Talk to your partner about pegging, see where their views lie, and figure out if it is something both of you would like to try.

Secondly, Screw the Stereotypes: People always have and always will have opinions. Once upon a time our society decided that anal sex automatically meant “gay sex”. So if you want to try it, ignore what other people are saying, at the end of the day it is you and the man in the mirror.

Thirdly remember to take Baby Steps: I mean as exciting as it may seem we have to remember that tissues in the anus and rectum are more fragile than genital tissue. It is a good idea to relax and ease into this new venture prior to pegging. You might want to start with oral or manual stimulation (rimming with finger) then move on to fingering or a smaller object like a butt plug.

Our fourth point will be Clean Yourself: I cannot emphasize this enough, it is important to clean your ‘bowels’ prior to the act. Try to poop prior to pegging and wash your butt with warm water and soap.

Lastly but not least Come Prepared: obviously there’s a sense of preparation needed for any big conquest (lol), bring toys (dildo, butt plug, vibratory, floggers) depending on how the agreement went and what is needed mostly is lubricant, lots and lots of lube.

Lube Up: the anus does not self lubricate so remember that lube is required. If you are using a condom on a silicon dildo then water based lubricants are recommended but if you are just using a silicon dildo then you might want to try oil-water hybrid because they are wins when playing with a tight area.
Enjoy!